Gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
Gratitude to the selfless, altruistic, and benevolent Master Lu!
Today, to save all sentient beings, I will learn from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva to spread Dharma. I will convince sentient beings to practice Buddhism using my experiences. May Guan Yin Bodhisattva bless me and help me turn my propagation into merits and virtues.
Hello everyone! I am fellow practitioner Hai Lian. Today, with immense gratitude, I come to share with you all my Buddhism experience. The topic is: "Buddhism saved a teenager suffering from severe depression."
In 2016, I began practicing the Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door.
In our local area, the tradition of "Round Lock" (also known as "Unlock," "Round Fifteenth," or "Round Braid") is prevalent. This ritual involves removing the longevity lock worn by a child since birth, symbolizing the child's growth. This custom has been passed down in China since ancient times as a regional folk tradition.
When children reach age 12, parents typically host banquet gatherings at restaurant, inviting relatives and friends. Additionally, events such as birthdays, weddings, funerals, academic achievements, and others often involve large banquet celebrations, where animal dishes are commonly served. During my eldest son's Round Lock ceremony, we hosted 20 tables of guests. However, these acts of killing created negative consequences for our entire family. Shortly after the Round Lock ceremony, my son broke his arm while riding his bicycle. Later, he became rebellious and suffered from depression, plunging our entire family into a painful abyss.
In 2017, when my son turned 13 and entered the first year of junior high school, his adolescence rebellion began [1]. He became disinterested in studying, frequently got into fights, played games excessively, and sometimes stayed out all night. I often felt heartbroken and shed tears, but there was little I could do.
Although I had started practicing Buddhism and reciting Buddhist scriptures, I seldom recited for my son. Once, I had a dream in which he spent 600 CNY treating his classmates to a meal, which made me particularly angry. This dream served as a reminder that his karmic creditors required 600 Little Houses for ascending. However, I didn't take it seriously. I only made a vow for 21 Little Houses for his karmic creditors and recited them sporadically and slowly.
Later, I dreamt again about him. In the dream, he was shirtless, and his body was covered with various patterns. This was a sign from the Bodhisattva, indicating that his karmic obstacles were severe and urging me to help him eliminate them. However, due to my limited understanding of Buddhism at the time, I didn't grasp the significance of the dream. I continued to recite Buddhist scriptures for him casually. Additionally, I had dreams about various situations involving my younger son, which distracted me from focusing on my elder son.
Gradually, my elder son's temper worsened. He became extremely irritable and would turn red-faced when angry, often getting into fights with classmates. He engaged in self-harm, punching walls causing his hands bleeding. He had an aversion to light; at home, he disliked brightness and would reflexively close the curtains when near a window. This fear of light was concerning to me. Since sunlight belongs to Yang I wondered if he had spirits in his body because spirits belong to Yin and tend to avoid light, causing him to react fearfully to sunlight. When I returned home, he always insisted on keeping the curtains closed, creating a dark atmosphere in the house.
Why does he become like this? Why is he not himself anymore? He's not close to us anymore. When we talk to him, his eyes are always cold, devoid of any emotion. Later, his condition worsened to the point where he would fly into fits of rage, hurling abusive words at anyone and anything. After discussing his situation with a diligent fellow Buddhist practitioner, she reminded me to make vows to recite Little Houses for his karmic creditors. At that time, I made vow to recite 3x21 Little Houses for his karmic creditors, but I still recited them very slowly.
Shortly after, he developed a fear of sound. When I was tidying up the house, he would shout, "Stop it, can't you stop doing it? It's annoying, really annoying." He often behaved like this. I worried about his schooling. What should I do if he couldn't attend classes anymore? After about 10 days, his symptoms further worsened. His teacher called to say that he couldn't bear the sound of writing on the blackboard, classmates talking, or even footsteps. He couldn't tolerate any noise, even with earplugs. So, my husband and I had to bring him back home. When we got home, he said to me, "Mom, don't expect me to excel in school. As long as I don't starve to death in the future, it's fine. Don't have too high expectations for me!" Seeing that my child couldn't go to school anymore, tears streamed down my face.
Staying at home, his symptoms exacerbated. He became fearful and irritable upon hearing any sound, often shouting and swearing at people. Additionally, he developed social anxiety, avoiding social interactions and feeling scared when encountering others. Master Lu enlightened us that being afraid of people is a sign of spirits. At first, I accompanied him wherever he went, but later, his condition progressed to autism and depression. Whenever his father came home, he would hide in the kitchen or bathroom.
My heart ached terribly. His father wanted to take him to a psychiatric hospital. I knew that his illness, being spiritual in nature, wouldn't be effectively treated in a hospital. Even if he took medication, it would only numb his body.
My mother and I started reciting Little Houses for his karmic creditors. I made a vow reciting 2x108 Little Houses for his karmic creditors, but his symptoms didn't improve after repaying his creditors. Later, a fellow practitioner reminded me to make a large vow for his karmic creditors. So, I made a vow for reciting 1000 Little Houses for his karmic creditors. In the following March and April, fellow practitioners offered him 300-400 recited Little Houses, while the rest were recited by my mother and me. By June or July, he began to show signs of improvement. By September, he was able to return to school. We informed his teachers that he had suffered from depression and asked for their patience and understanding. Later, the teacher told me that sometimes he would suddenly become silent, while at other times his emotions would become unstable. I assured the teacher that I would help him recover.
The period between before and after his depression lasted for >3 years. Now, he has graduated from high school, and his condition has been improving. One day, he said to me, "Why am I so irritable?" I replied, "It might be related to your karmic obstacles, but it will get better." Gradually, his physical and emotional state improved, but he refused to acknowledge that it was due to our recitations of Buddhist scriptures. He said, "Do you think reciting scriptures will solve my problems? You must be joking." I felt helpless.
Regardless of how my son felt, I continued to recite Little Houses for his karmic creditors and recited the Heart Sutra to help him gain wisdom and faith in Buddhism. When he got angry, he still expressed his anger. Once, I bought him breakfast, but he complained about the cheap quality. I felt hurt, but then I realized that it was probably my karmic debt to him, especially since I had performed the Round Lock ceremony for him, causing so much killing karma [2-4]. Thus, I made a vow to recite the Mantra to Untie Karmic Knots 10,000 times to dissolve the grievances between us.
This year, he has undergone a remarkable transformation. Even on his birthday, he didn't ask me to buy him a cake. When I suggested buying a small cake for him, he replied, "It's fine, whether you buy it or not." So, I bought him a very small cake. Then, I thought the cake was too small, so I considered buying him something else. But he said, "Don't waste money, a small cake is enough, it's okay." Suddenly, I felt that my son had become sensible, and I felt particularly gratified.
He has shown filial piety towards me. He used his New Year's money to buy me a blouse. He has also become more frugal. Previously, he would ask his father to buy seven or eight pieces of clothing at once, but now he doesn't ask for clothes anymore. When he goes out to play, he doesn't even ask for money. He says, "I'm old enough now, I feel embarrassed to always spend your money." I'm extremely happy; my child has truly changed. My real son has finally returned.
A few days ago, he told me that he's no longer afraid of light. He has become more cheerful in his interactions with others. I told him that his grandmother has been burning Little Houses for his karmic creditors, and she has already repaid 2000 sheets. He was particularly surprised. He asked if this meant that all the spirits on him had been ascended.
Now, our conversations are becoming more harmonious. I've talked to him about the karmic consequences of actions like abortion and improper sexual conduct, teaching him to be a moral person in the future. He can now grasp these principles and understands the importance of karma. He has started to feel the miraculous and profound nature of Buddhism.
My perseverance >3 years has finally led to his profound transformation. The remarkable change in my son is truly the result of the compassionate guidance from Guan Yin Bodhisattva and the benevolent teachings of Master Lu. If it weren't for practicing Buddhism and reciting Buddhist scriptures, how could such a significant transformation have occurred in just 3 years?
Before practicing Buddhism, I was consumed by greed, hatred, delusion, arrogance, and doubt. I instilled much negative knowledge in my child. It wasn't until later when I started practicing Buddhism and gained some wisdom that I understood how to guide my child onto the right path. I realized that I needed to become a moral person, repent for my past wrongdoings, lead by example, and show my child my own transformation. I learned that by engaging in actions beneficial to sentient beings and helping others, we can lead a valuable and meaningful life.
Many fellow practitioners around me go out every day to propagate the Dharma, hoping to introduce more people to Buddhism. They aim to provide an umbrella for us to shield us from the storms of life when we are in pain. Guan Yin Bodhisattva is our refuge. Our Master has left us with many treasures, such as Buddhism in Plain Terms, which help us understand the causes and effects and cultivate our minds and rectify our behaviors. Before practicing Buddhism, I felt empty, but now, every day brings happiness and fulfillment. My heart feels grounded, and filled with Dharma joy.
Gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
Gratitude to the selfless, altruistic, and benevolent Master Lu!
If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the truth in the presentation, I pray for forgiveness from Namo Sakyamuni Buddha, the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, and Dharma protectors.
I would appreciate my fellow Buddhist practitioners' critique and correction! I, not my fellow Buddhist practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma!
Presenter: Buddhist practitioner Hai Lian, Gratitude and Namaste!
Editor: Buddhist practitioner Yan Bao
Received: 2024-02-02
Posted: 2024-02-28
Translator: Frank
Published: 2024-02-28
[Note 1] The rebellious phase of children arises from observing the faults of their parents and from past life karmic entanglements
Female Listener: Generally, children go through a rebellious phase. From a metaphysical perspective, what does this phase entail? Is it due to karmic forces or unresolved grievances?
Master Lu: It's due to unresolved grievances. The rebellious phase, in reality, stems from the child gradually growing up and no longer holding the same level of respect for their parents. This is because the child begins to notice many flaws in their parents, and they start to understand various life lessons. At this point, they may look down upon their parents and rebel against them. Additionally, as they interact more with society and due to their past life connections, negative karmic entanglements begin to manifest from the moment they become aware. Hence, the rebellious phase forms in this way. Do you understand?
Female Listener: Yes, I understand. Gratitude to Master!
--- Wenda20150522 16:27
[Note 2] The killing karma during a wedding banquet is counted against the newlyweds
Female listener: Master Lu, when I got married and held the wedding banquet, many fish and chickens were slaughtered. Does all of that count against me?
Master Lu: It all counts against both you and your husband.
Female listener: I understand.
Master Lu: That's why I advised you to keep reciting the Amitabha Pure Land Rebirth Mantra continuously. It's because any past actions of killing small animals in our past lives or in this life will all be taken into account.
--- Wenda20120212 01:29:10
[Note 3] Regarding the issue of killing karma
Female listener: Regarding the issue of killing, sometimes we buy frozen items and don't know who killed them, does it count as killing? But if it's fresh and we know who killed it, even if it wasn't specifically for us, does that still count as killing?
Master Lu: Whether it's related to you or not is the most important factor. For example, if someone kills something and it has nothing to do with you, then it doesn't count as you killing.
Female listener: For instance, when treating guests in China, the dishes are prepared by the restaurant.
Master Lu: If you're treating guests, it counts as yours.
Female listener: But I didn't pay for it.
Master Lu: If someone treats you, it still counts as yours.
Female listener: Oh, even if it's just a part?
Master Lu: Not just a part, it all counts as yours. For example, if it's your birthday and all the guests are treated, it's all counted as yours.
--- wenda20120113 62:38
[Note 4] Regarding celebrating birthdays in the name of child and its impact of killing karma on the child
Female listener: There is a fellow practitioner whose child's birthday falls two days before the grandparents' birthdays. Does this mean that the child has a deeper affinity with the grandparents?
Master Lu: Yes.
Female listener: The child's parents are divorced. The child and the fellow practitioner have been vegetarian and reciting Buddhist scriptures at home. Now the child is 7 years old. Sometimes when the grandparents celebrate their birthdays, they want to include the granddaughter by inviting guests to dinner in her name, as their birthdays are very close. So, does the karmic consequence of killing affect the child?
Master Lu: Definitely, whenever you engage in killing, there will be consequences. If the grandparents want to celebrate and include killing, let them do it themselves, why do they get the child involved?
Female listener: Right. It should be the grandparents' celebration. Because they are quite dominant, the fellow practitioner has had difficulties refusing it several times. So, what should she do now to pray that the karmic consequences of killing animals for food will not affect the child?
Master Lu: Just don't get her child involved. If the grandparents are dominant, let them celebrate for themselves. Why drag the granddaughter into it?
Female listener: Oh. I just wanted to ask, how can the fellow Buddhist practitioner recite Buddhist scriptures to eliminate this karmic consequence?
Master Lu: Don't talk to me about this. I don't want to hear about such questions. Ultimately, I advise you not to kill. If you still insist on killing, and then ask, "What should I do? How can I repent? When you ask me these questions, I find them as disgusting as such acts, do you understand?"
Female listener: Understood.
Master Lu: Here, people are going to kill and eat meat, and they still ask me "What should I do?" Don't talk to me about these things.
Female listener: Okay, I understand.
--- Wenda20180916B 23:23
Statement by translator
1 The story was translated from Chinese into English by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I pray for forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
2 Author Hai Lian was interviewed by Frank during translation for detailed information.
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原文如下：
佛法拯救了一名抑郁症少年
感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨!
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法金刚菩萨!
感恩弘法度众舍身忘我的恩师慈父卢军宏师父!
请大慈大悲观世音菩萨保佑，我今天为了度众生，学习观世音菩萨千手千眼救度众生，所以我现身说法。请观世音菩萨给我加持，保佑我能够把今天这个弘法转为功德。
大家好！我是海莲同修。今天，我怀着无比感恩的心情来和大家分享。题目是：佛法拯救了一名抑郁症少年
2016年，我开始修学心灵法门。
我们当地盛行“圆锁”（也称“开锁”、“圆十五”、“圆辫”）。这个礼俗指的是摘除孩子出生时所佩戴的长命锁，象征孩子长大的一种礼俗仪式。这个礼俗是中国自古传承下来的一种区域性的地方民俗。
当孩子长到12岁时家长在酒店宴请亲友。另外，像生日、婚丧喜事，升学等，都会搞大型宴请，菜肴当中免不了生猛海鲜。我家大儿子圆锁时就请了20桌客人。这些杀业导致我们整个家庭各种不顺。过圆锁后不久，孩子骑自行车把胳膊摔断了。后来，孩子又出现叛逆、患上抑郁症，让我们全家陷入了痛苦的深渊。
2017年, 儿子13岁，上初一。他的青春叛逆期来临【1】。在学校里他厌学，经常打架、打游戏，有时还彻夜不归。我经常伤心流泪，却又无可奈何。
那时虽然我已经学佛念经了，但是为孩子念的极少。有一次，我梦见孩子请同学吃饭就花了600块钱。我特别的生气。这个梦提示我，需要帮助孩子的要经者600张经文组合。我却没当一回事。我只给孩子的要经者许愿了21张经文组合，并且断断续续地念得特别慢。
后来，我又梦到孩子光着上半身，全身呈现出各种的图案。这是菩萨在梦里给我指点孩子业障重，让我赶紧帮他消业。由于学佛时间短，当时我没有领悟到梦境的含义。我还是漫不经心地给他念点经。另外，由于我还梦见我家小儿子的各种梦境，使得我没顾上大儿子。
逐渐的，大儿子开始脾气暴躁，火气相当大，一发火满脸通红，经常与同学打架。他自虐，用拳头砸墙，把手砸得全是血。他怕光，在家里的时候不喜欢光，走到窗户旁边就条件反射似的赶紧把窗帘拉上。孩子怕光不是好现象。我心想，太阳光属阳，这个孩子阴气太重，他身上是不是有灵性啊？因为灵性怕光，所以导致他特别怕见光！我回到家里总是黑漆漆的，他都不让我拉开窗帘。
为什么他会变成这样的？为什么他变得不像他自己了？他跟我们也不亲近了。跟他说话，他的眼神总是冷冰冰的，一点感情都没有。后来，他的病情发展到暴跳如雷，狂躁起来啥也都能骂出来。我跟精进的师兄说了孩子的情况后，师兄提醒我要给孩子许愿念经文组合。当时我就许了三拨21张组合，但是念得仍然特别慢。
紧接着，孩子又出现了怕声音的症状。当我收拾家时，他就说：“行了，你别收拾行不行啊！好烦，特别烦。”他经常这样，我心想这个学不能上了，怎么办呢？过了十来天，症状更严重了。老师打来电话说，孩子不能听黑板上写字的声音、同学说话的声音、及走路的声音，即使塞着耳塞都不行。我只好跟他爸一起把他接回家。回家后，他跟我说:“妈，你别想着我上学出人头地，我以后饿不死就行，你也别对我期盼太高！”看着孩子不能上学了，我心里在流泪。
待在家里，他的症状越来越严重了。听到声音他就怕，就烦躁，就吼人、骂人。孩子还出现社交恐惧症，不想跟人交往，见到人会害怕。师父开示过，如果是灵性，就是见人会害怕。刚开始，我随时随地跟着他。后来，他发展成自闭抑郁症了。只要他爸一回到家，他就躲到厨房或卫生间。
我心里特别的心痛。他爸要把他送精神病医院。我知道像他这种病属于灵性病，医院里就算吃药了，也只能是麻痹他的身体。
我就和我母亲开始给他念经文组合。我给他的要经者许了两拨108张，念完了以后症状并没有减轻。后来师兄提醒我说，给他的要经者许个大数吧。我就帮孩子的要经者许了1000张经文组合。次年的三四月份，师兄们帮助结缘了三四百张组合，其余的都是我跟我妈念诵的。到了六七月份，孩子开始有所好转了。九月份开学他就能上学了。我们告诉他老师说，他得过抑郁症，请老师耐心关照。后来，老师跟我说孩子有的时候一下子就沉默不语了，有的时候一下子又情绪不稳定。我说，老师你放心，我会让孩子好起来的。
孩子生病前后有三年多的时间。现在，他已经高中毕业了。他的状况也越来越好了。有一天，他跟我说：”我这脾气怎么这么暴躁啊？“我说，这可能跟你这个业障有关系，会好起来的。慢慢地，他身体脾气都好起来了，但是他不承认是我们念经帮他好起来的。他说：“你念念经就把我念好了？你真是开玩笑。”我特别的无奈。
不管孩子怎么想，我一直给孩子念经文组合，一直念诵《心经》让他开智慧相信佛法。当他生气的时候，他还是想骂就骂。一次，我给他买面包买早点。我辛辛苦苦买回来，他却挑剔嫌我买的便宜货。我心里特别的难过，但是我转念一想，肯定是我欠孩子的啊，谁让我为他办圆锁杀生来着【2-4】？于是，我又许了10,000遍《解结咒》化解我跟孩子之间的冤结。
到了今年，孩子转变特别大。他过生日的时候也没要求我给他买蛋糕。我说给你买个小蛋糕吧，他说买不买都行。于是，我就给他买了个特别小的蛋糕。我又想这个蛋糕这么小，要不再给他买个别的什么东西吧。他说你别浪费钱，买个小的就行了，没关系的。突然，我觉得孩子懂事了，心里感到特别的欣慰。
他知道孝顺我了，用他的压岁钱给我买了件上衣。他也知道节约了。以前跟他爸要求一下子能买七八件衣服，现在也不要求买衣服了。他出去玩，我给他钱都不要。他说我都这么大了，我也不好意思总花您的钱。我特别的高兴，孩子真是变了。我真正的儿子终于回来了。
前几天，他告诉我他现在不怕光了。他跟人相处也开朗了。我告诉他，姥姥一直在给你的要经者烧经文组合，现在已经烧了2000张了。他特别惊讶。他说是不是把他身上的灵性都超度走了？
现在，他和我说话也越来越投机了。我跟孩子讲了关于堕胎、邪淫等因果报应，教他以后要好好做人。这些道理他现在能听进去了，明白了因果很重要，感觉到了佛法的神奇与伟大。
我三年多的坚持，终于让孩子脱胎换骨。孩子这么大的转变真的是观世音菩萨和恩师慈父对他的救度啊！如果不是学佛念经了，短短三年时间怎么可能让他转变这么大呢？
学佛前，我贪瞋痴慢疑，给孩子灌输了许多负面的东西。直到后来学佛了，我也有了些智慧，才明白怎样才能把孩子往正路上引导。自己一定要好好做人做事，痛改前非，言传身教，让孩子看到自己的改变。凡是对众生有益的，能够帮助众生的就去做，就会让我们活得有价值、有意义。
我周围的很多师兄，每天都会出去弘法度众，就是想让更多人能够接触到佛法，让我们在痛苦的时候，能有一把伞给我们遮风挡雨。观音菩萨就是我们的靠山。师父给我们留下了那么多的宝贝——《白话佛法》，让我们知因懂果，修心修行。学佛前觉得空虚，学佛后天天开心，心里充实，心里踏实，法喜充满。
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分享人：海莲同修 感恩合十
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【备注1】Wenda20150522 16:27孩子叛逆期从看到父母的毛病和前世恶缘中形成
女听众：小孩子一般都会有叛逆期，那么叛逆期从玄学上说，有什么说法？是业力还是冤结？
台长答：冤结。叛逆期，实际上从现实生活中讲，就是当他逐渐长大，看到爸爸妈妈，已经没有那么一种尊敬感了。因为爸爸妈妈太多的毛病展示在孩子身上，孩子已经懂得很多人生道理了，这个时候他会看不起爸爸妈妈，会有一种叛逆。还有，因为他接触社会了；还有，就是因为他前世的缘分，恶缘都是从懂事情开始的。所以，这个叛逆期就这么形成了。明白了吗？
女听众：明白了。感恩师父！
【备注2】结婚办喜酒杀生算在新人头上
Wenda20120212 01:29:10
女听众：台长，我结婚的时候办喜酒，杀了很多鱼呀鸡呀的，这些都算在我头上的吗？
卢台长：全部算在你老公跟你两个人。
女听众：明白了。
卢台长：所以为什么叫你们要不停地念《往生咒》？就是我们过去生中、今世有过杀小动物，这些都算的。
【备注3】关于杀生的问题wenda20120113 62:38
女听众：杀生的问题，我们有时候买来冰冻的东西，不知道谁杀的，算死的。但如果是鲜活的东西，比如说不是特别为你杀的，但是你知道哪一个人杀的，这种都叫杀生吧？
卢台长：你知道是哪一个人杀的，跟你有关系没关系是最重要的，比方说人家杀了之后跟你没关系的，那不算你杀生的
女听众：但是比如说国内请客，餐馆杀的。
卢台长：你花钱请客就算你的。
女听众：不是我花钱请的。
卢台长：那么人家请你也是算你的。
女听众：哦，也算一部分？
卢台长：什么一部分，就算你的。比方说你今天过生日，所有的请客都算你的。
女听众：别人结婚，但是我知道结婚的那个人。
卢台长：哦，这个不管的。
【备注4】家人以孩子的名义过生日，杀生对孩子有影响Wenda20180916B 23:23
女听众：有一个女同修孩子的生日是在爷爷奶奶生日的前两天，这个是不是说孩子跟爷爷奶奶的缘分会比较深？
卢台长：是。
女听众：这个孩子的妈妈跟爸爸已经离异，孩子跟女同修在家里一直吃素念经。现在孩子7岁了，有时候爷爷奶奶自己过生日的时候想帮孙女一起办，因为他们的生日离得很近，就差两天，所以他们就会以这个孩子的名义来请客人吃饭，然后同时帮自己过生日。这样的话，是不是杀生的业障也会影响到孩子呢？
卢台长：肯定的，只要你杀生就会有影响。爷爷奶奶一定要杀生、要办，就让爷爷奶奶去办好了，把孩子算上去干吗？
女听众：对的。就是爷爷奶奶自己办，因为他们也挺强势的，女同修几次都是真的没有办法，现在她应该怎么样祈求让这些活杀食物的业障不影响到孩子？
卢台长：不要让她孩子参与就好了。爷爷奶奶强势，让他们两个去办就好了，为什么把孙女贴进去了？
女听众：哦。我就想问一下，同修怎么样念经可以把这个业障消除掉？
卢台长：别跟我讲，这些事情我不愿意听的。到最后劝你不要去杀人。一定要杀人，“杀了人，我怎么办呢？我用什么方法来忏悔呢？”你问我这些问题，我就看作像这种问题一样，很恶心的，听得懂吗？
女听众：明白了。
卢台长：这里要去杀生、去吃荤的，还要问我“怎么办”，不要跟我讲这些。
女听众：好的，我明白了。
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